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Lazy, is not really the proper word for him. I see this as his parents fault. I'm not sure where I fit in to all this. I love his father, but don't want to commit to the wedding because I'm unsure of this childs future. He is 18 and even though he received a partical scholship, is allowed to start college with only 2 classes a week. the mom does not realize that is not considered full time and won't keep son on fathers insurance. he becames a vegetarian. OK but that does not mean live on french fries alone. She signed for him to have large holes put in his ears. he is up all nite long playing virtual reality games on the internet and sleeps all day long. this is close to child endangerment when the parent sets no rules, has no structure. he does not have to work. he will tell you that. No they are not rich. (mom don't work either, never has.) Father says there is nothing he can do KNOW. the child is 18. I disagree. Do I run? How should I handle this? Maybe its completely none of my business, but I scared I will have to spend the rest of my life supporting a child that will never have to grow up? any advise will help. unsure in ocala

Yes, I had a lazy disrespectful step son starting at age 10. My rules were, you made the mess, you clean it up. I did not lift a finger. When he turned 16 his father bought him a car that her wrecked. At 18 we cut him off. He wanted anything he would have to work for it. If it was a medical condition we would help but if he was healthy and on his feet, he had to earn his keep. If he is old enough to join the military and vote, he is old enough to take care of himself. It is your business because the boy, I mean man, will be visiting. Set rules at home and stick to them. If he doesn't follow, show him the door. I have set rules at home that even the dog has to follow.