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Hi all,
I have been reading Ocala Moms for a while now and think there are some great ideas and some very nice people. I have read several posts about playgroups for small children, help and services for special needs children but I was wondering if anyone knew of parenting classes for children with ADHD or just parenting classes for tweens/teens in general. I have three children, one thats 13, one thats 12 and one thats 10. My middle child has ADHD and has always done really well in school. This past year she was in 6th grade and it was a nightmare, referral after referral, lying all the time, obsessing about boys and a serious attitude. We have given consequences, talked to her until we are blue in the face, positive reinforcement, therapy and medication. All to no avail. Does anyone have any suggestions??? I would appreciate any comments or suggestions. Thank you very much.

Hi Crazyinocala. Your daughter sounds like a clone of my now 15 yr old daughter. I have found out that positive reienforcement and tuff love work the best. What "things" does your girl like? Clothes, makeup, phone, computer? It was the clothes and makeup for our daughter. We started off small when ever we had a problem, we would take something away. At first she justed laughed in our face. She did not really care about not being able to use the phone or computer. So next went the makeup and all the little clothes she liked wearing. Boy did that set her off. She would screem at us this was her stuff. We would calmly expalin that everything she had really belonged to us, after all we paid for it right. We told her she was a child and by law we had to only provid shelter, food and clothing. Everything else was a priveledge she had to earn. the more she faught us the harder we tried to show her we ment business. Eventuall we removed her bedroom door. After that did not work we made her move out into the livingroom. The only things she was allowed to have were her "approved clothing", mattress, and a shelf to put her clothes on. After a week of living in the living room, she realized we were right. Have not had a problem since.

Thanks momma tasha..
We have taken everything away from her, I dont know how much time she spent in her room with just her bed and the bible, due to her behavior in school and at home. She is just turning 12 and I cant imagine how it will be when she is truly a " teen " I cant seem to find anything that makes an impact, it is so frustrating. She makes all As and Bs in school but just has outrageous behaviors. I will continue to try the positive reinforcement and tough love, thank you for replying..

I agree with Momma Tasha, we did the same with our daughter. If she misbehaved we would take things away. I would put them in the trunk of the car and drive to work with her stuff. She couldn't get it until I got home. One thing that I found that worked for us, we had her start volunteering in places that had children her own age but were either disabled or had lost things due to fire or loss of jobs. She learned that she was priviledged. Her biggest complaint when she didn't get her way was "that's no fair" She found out life was not fair to those children. Mrs RobRon

I like the idea of volunteering. Lately my 15 year-old son has the attitude that everything is all about him. He can't seem to see past it.