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We have a member of the Ocala Mom forum who wants to remain anonymous but is going through a hard time and would like some words of comfort, advice, etc....
Her husband has asked for a divorce and she feels everything changing. Currently, her husband has her little girl one evening a week. She is going through all of the emotional drainage of a divorce and is scared, tired, worried about how this will affect her kids, etc......
I know she'd appreciate any words you may have to offer.

Having been through this many years back, I can tell you that this will be the hardest thing that you will probably go through. BUT, you will get through it. Take one day at a time. Wake up each morning knowing that you are a good person, and a great mother. I had a 2 year old, and $200.00 to my name when my ex left. I was at rock bottom. I took one day at a time and made something of myself.

As far as the custody issue, I can't help there. My ex walked out and never looked back. My daughter never saw him after that day. She is now 20 years old and could careless about him. I NEVER bad mouthed him in front of her. Her opinions were those that she developed herself.

Your children will do fine also. There will be some ups and downs with them. They need to know that even though their parents are no longer together, they are loved by both.

Good luck and take one day at a time....

I have no advice, as I've never had to go through it. I hope that you can remain strong for your children and I think taking it one day at a time is great advice. Also, become as informed as possible about your situation. I will add you to my prayer list. Good luck!

I'm sorry you're going through this. I think it would be a tremendous help to seek a support group... many churches offer a divorce recovery class.

Know you're in my thoughts...

I just wanted to say that there have been many times in my life that I thought, "How am I going to get through this?"...and somehow I did, and when I look back now I realize that we are stronger than we think we are when things get tough. I am sorry that you are about to embark on a new path in your life that you may not want to take, but will have to anyway. I pray for strength, courage, and happiness for you. You just might find one day down the road that the true love God intends for you (besides your children), has yet to come into your life. Meanwhile, love your kids with all you have, and hold your head high...good luck to you.

I went thru it several years ago,I thank God for my family,all i can say is time heals...This will make you stronger,keep focused on your kids,I know when ever i was having a bad day, my kids would always bring a smile to my face, then things really didn't seem that bad, one day at a time, don't worry about the weeks ahead, so much can change from here to there! Walk by faith, not by sight! God Bless you and your children.

I am so sorry you are going through such hard times. Divorce is terrible. Remember you are stronger than you think. I myself have gone through many hard times and changes in my life. Some days it just overwhelms you and you ask, "How can I keep this up?" You just keep on going and don't let an ex husband get in your way of happiness. Tell yourself everyday that bad things happen to good people and you are a good person and can move on to a better life.

I know it is so easy for people to say these things. It is hard to be the one living it. Just be thankful of your child and that it was good that you have that from your marriage. You are not alone. Fifty percent of marriages fail for many different reasons.

Eventually after some time you will see that you are better off without a bad relationship. I wish you the best of luck for the future. Just remember to find time for you before giving to others. This is the time to sit back and say, "hey, I deserve to have fun times and happiness for myself."

hey, keep your head up, draw your strength from your child, Make sure you have chocolate, Never let him see you down,Take time for your self,and remember, You are doing things for you and your lil girl, take care good luck.

I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I'm sure you don't see it right now but you will. Stay positive for your children AND yourself. Reach out to family & friends, don't be afraid to ask for help. I was seperated from my husband only for a very short time & yes, it was scary. If you don't belong to a church, maybe now is a good time. If you do, then continue your faith. Keep in mind, there's alot of people who do truly care about you & your children. Hold your head up high!! and find something to smile about everyday. It will get better. You will be in my thoughts!!